Men in Transition

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There is an old Taoist story about a poor farmer whose horse runs away. His neighbors visit to express their sympathy — “Such bad luck!” they say — and the farmer only replies, “We’ll see...”

The next day, the horse returns, along with two wild horses. “How wonderful!” his neighbors exclaim. But the farmer only smiles and says, “We’ll see.”

The day after that, the farmer’s son falls off one of the wild horses while trying to tame it, and breaks his leg. Again, the neighbors express their sorrow, and the farmer only says, “We’ll see.”

The following week two military officers arrive to conscript the farmer’s son into the army. Seeing, however, that his leg is broken, they pass him by. “How fortunate!” the neighbors say....

And, well, you probably know where this is going.

Change sometimes happens to us unexpectedly, and sometimes we choose it knowing full well (or at least thinking we know) exactly what we’re getting into.

Whether we choose it or not, change challenges us — to grow, to adapt, and sometimes simply to survive.

Yet as the story above illustrates, the real meaning of the changes in our lives is open-ended. How we think and feel about change is often just as important as the change itself.

If you’re struggling with a big change or transition in your life, I’m here to help.

  • Are you a new dad trying to deal with the incredibly joyful, and anxious, and sleep-depriving responsibility of having a child -- along with the effects of this little one on on your work, marriage/relationship, or friendships?
  • Have you lost a job or are you considering a career move, and wondering how you’re going to get ahead, live your life purpose, or simply land on your feet?
  • Are you a young man trying figure out who you really are and how to make your way in a challenging world of work, women, sex, family, and cultural expectations?
  • Are you going through a divorce or separation, and working through difficult feelings of loss, attachment, anger, jealousy, emptiness, or confusion?

As men, we’re often expected to be strong and independent, to have a sense of direction, and to be successful. Yet, to truly be our best, to be healthy, and to live up to our ideals, we also need to be self-compassionate. Sometimes we need to reach out for help.

In times of transition, you might find yourself questioning your self-worth and abilities, confused about your direction, and even sliding into depression or unhealthy habits, maybe even addiction.

Talk to me. We’ll take a deep breath, look at your situation, and begin to map out the small and practical, yet powerful steps you can take to better deal with the difficult changes in your life, or even transition into a new way of being.

In addition to my therapeutic credentials, I’m also a husband and father of three kids. I’ve navigated through jobs, relationships, and other major changes in my life — so I can relate. Most importantly, I’ve learned some of the most useful strategies and techniques for navigating the challenges that men face, and I’m here to share them with you.