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A.H. Almaas identifies 18 "I-states" or "ego-states" associated with healing narcissistic wounds. This is the kind of work we need to do in order to take care of the shadow aspects, projected outward, that result in, for example, authoritarian political characters appearing on the global scene in leadership positions. We can use "voice dialogue" to enact whichever of these I-states seem most relevant to our experience at the moment, giving us a kind of map of the territory and a way to navigate it towards wholeness.

Here are the 18 I-states: "fake self"; "hard self"; "wounded self"; Betrayed self; raging self; pointless self; lost self; shameful self; rejected self; spacious self; self-active self; depressed self; helpless self; trusting self; ideal self; loving self; essential self or unique self.

In voice dialogue what we do is "speak" to that self and then as that self, helping us to then to let go of it. When we let go of aspects of self that are "true" and healthy, they don't go away, but in fact are accessed even more strongly. So We don't need to worry that letting go of a positive is a problem.  “That which is true can never be lost” 🙂

References:

A.H. Almaas, http://www.ahalmaas.com/books/the-point-of-existence-narcissism-self-realization

Hal and Sidra Stone on voice dialogue method:  https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Ourselves-Voice-Dialogue-Manual/dp/1882591062

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I was fortunate to have the opportunity to participate in this open, honest dialogue about the challenging topic of depression and suicidality in men, at the social networking site focused on depth, www.infiniteconversations.com.

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Some Testimonials About my Work

Published on May 31, 2018 by in Uncategorized

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Here is a sample of testimonials I have received from past clients.  I achieved a 90% plus client satisfaction rate during my five years work as an Employee Assistance Counsellor.

  • good service!
  • The counsellor I saw made the EAP program work for me.
  • I will always use your service when needed.
  • Durwin is an excellent counsellor.
  • Quite helpful to clarify thinking.
  • Very helpful.
  • Really great service. I learned a lot and grew as a person.
  • Thank you for taking the extra steps to connect with me.
  • My EAP was extremely helpful in providing me with the tools I need to assist me with my problem.
  • My provider recommended books, pamphlets + avenues to explore to spend our time together. Very helpful + the right info.
  • Tt was a very useful learning experience that resulted in happier more balanced productive outlook.
  • I’m grateful that this service is available.

 

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Please check out this presentation on integrative spirituality.  Many of us have backgrounds in Christianity, although often not favorable!  This approach I have offered, I believe, can help redeem our Christian background by leaving dogma behind.  Instead, we can focus on the practices of meditation, prayer and contemplation and see what we experience without a heavy overlay of pre-given interpretation and belief.

Integrative Spirituality Christian Context

All feedback welcome :).  If this resonates for you, please call 604-440-1968 regarding how I can assist you with your needs.

Durwin

 

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Mindfulness-Based Relapse Prevention for Addictive Behaviors: A Clinician's GuideMindfulness-Based Relapse Prevention for Addictive Behaviors: A Clinician's Guide by Sarah Bowen

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

This book is a great resource for clinical counselors who want to assist people in recovery using mindfulness as a key tool for that purpose. The book provides structured exercises and practices specifically for a group format. However, I have found them to also be readily adaptable for use with individuals.

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